Hello, Lovely Soul Drop!
Today I talked with a doctor about my fibromyalgia and she told me she was proud of me because I accept that I have it, that I also have a personality disorder, and that since I embrace it I can also handle it. I’m also proud of myself because of that along with many other things! It feels weird to talk about me positively when I spent most of my life hating everything about myself. As I always conclude…it’s all about balance. I can look at the amazing things I am or have done at the same time I can look at my shadows so I can work on them. That’s why I created Kind Connections, to bring the middle ground and a more nuanced perspective of life.
Am I always empathetic? No, sometimes I forget to place myself in someone else’s shoes. Am I always critical in my thinking? Hell no! I’m fighting so hard to improve on that area due to my tendency to be extreme in my views. I tend to see everything in black and white, so critical thinking is vital for me to stay as grounded as possible. No one has entirely perfected these two skills since most humans either let their emotions handle them or suppress their emotions so hard they disconnect. Basically being balanced is as hard as standing on one foot while drunk.
How can you be more balanced today? Let’s begin!
1. Why does it matter? The best motivation is to comprehend why this matters in the first place. I’m trying to be more balanced with my energy management. I want to be active enough so I don’t get depressed and I can accomplish my goals, but I don’t want to overwork my body or mind. I care about this balance a lot, and I understand why it’s important. Just apply this to whatever you’re trying to find balance of.
2. What are both sides? Whenever I tell people I lean to the center politically it is because I take from two opposing values in different categories (society vs individual for example) but it doesn’t mean the “right” side is a mix of both always. It’s important we look at the nuances, and then choose our position. However, you have to choose which two things you want to balance out! I’m not balancing working out and being lazy. I’m balancing out staying active and overworking my body. See the difference? Being lazy isn’t an option for me, that’s not one of my sides. Being cruel, hurting others on purpose, and harming myself are never on either end. I might fall in the center in politics, but I don’t support war regardless of the situation. I do have some ultimatums!
3. Even if you find a good balance it doesn’t mean everything will be perfect. As I explained, I’m not always the most empathetic or the most critical thinking person in the room, you can fail even if you know what balance you’re looking for. At the same time, you can be empathetic and not be sympathetic towards someone. You don’t have to become a doormat. On the other hand, you don’t have to back every single choice you make with facts…I drank a milkshake even if I shouldn’t have and that doesn’t mean the world will end for me. You’re still human! I guess you can balance being human and improving yourself!
I hope this inspired you to think about how you can find a more balanced and nuanced way of life! This isn’t the right or perfect answer, still it can be helpful! Or at least I hope it is.
With much love,
Belle
Thank you, Belle.